Something i read today and liked to share with you. Extracted from The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book,” by Adele B. Lynn
I guess most of us use at least one of these habits, maybe with a good intention in heart.
Six Negative Listening Habits
The Faker
All the outward signs are there: nodding, making eye contact and giving the occasional “uh huh.” However, the faker isn’t concentrating on the speaker. His mind is elsewhere.
The Interrupter
The interrupter doesn’t allow the speaker to finish and doesn’t ask clarifying questions or seek more information from the speaker. He’s too anxious to speak his words and shows little concern for the speaker.
The Intellectual or Logical Listener
This person is always trying to interpret what the speaker is saying and why. He is judging the speaker’s words and trying to fit them into his logic box. He rarely asks about the underlying feeling or emotion attached to a message.
The Happy Hooker (most one i hate!)
The happy hooker uses the speaker’s words only as a way to get to his message. When the speaker says something, and frankly, it could be anything, the happy hooker steals the focus and then changes to his own point of view, opinion, story or facts. Favorite hooker lines are, “Oh, that’s nothing, here’s what happened to me…” or “I remember when I was…”
The Rebuttal Maker
This listener only listens long enough to form a rebuttal. His point is to use the speaker’s words against him. At his worst, he is argumentative and wants to prove you wrong. At the least, the person always wants to make the speaker see the other point of view.
